The Fallout

My MIL has really outdone herself this time! After the incident a week ago she phoned us on Friday and asked why she hadn't heard from us and wondered when we were going to visit her. My husband said that she acted like an insane, crazy person on Monday. She hung up on him.



This morning I checked my email and there was one from her to my husband and I. It was one of the most mean-spirited, hurtful emails I have ever read. She is usually this way with my husband but is more passive-aggressive with me. This time she wrote so many mean and hurtful lies that I was stunned. I am usually a pretty calm person, however, I was FURIOUS! I could not believe all of the twisted versions of events she came up with. She dragged me through the mud and back. My husband said he has never seen me this mad. Later on, after I calmed down, I started to cry.


Last year when my husband and his mom had a falling out, I was the one who kept up the relationship and talked with her, emailed her and had her over to see our son when my hubby was at work. This went on for 4 months until my daughter was born. I didn't want her to not have a relationship with our children, her grandchildren because I felt bad that she already has never met her other grandchildren who are 3 and 5. As I mentioned in my last post, my hubby's brother hasn't talked to her in over 10 years.

I feel bad saying this, but I have decided that I no longer want her around my family. She is emotionally abusive and toxic. I don't want her negative, mean-spirited attitude around my children.

When I originally started this blog, it was because I needed a place where I could just blog freely about whatever was going on in my life. I know that she reads my other blog, where I talk mostly about the kids, although she has never admitted to it. I have decided to make that blog permission-only too. I will still keep it light-hearted, as it was intended. Especially in the off-chance that we reconcile.

I have also decided to gradually add some background material to this story on this blog as I get a chance. It will help me vent and make it easier for others to understand the complete picture.

Menu Plan - week 4

Sunday
fresh gnocchi and meat sauce (bought from a place that makes yummy pasta)

Monday
Sheppard's Pie

Tuesday
shrimp curry-in-a-hurry
steamed basmati rice

Wednesday
Tilapia with Lemon Vinaigrette
Israeli couscous
Green salad

Thursday
Pecan Chicken
Roasted sweet potatoes
asparagus



Friday
Pork Loin Roast with Rice and Peas

Saturday
Going to my Mom's for dinner....yeh!

Dog Bite

Yesterday, my FIL came over and brought his dog. She is a good dog, however, she is getting old and hasn't been herself for about a year now. I was in the kitchen getting ready to go out and my hubby was upstairs getting changed. So, my FIL, son and the dog were in the family room together. All of a sudden my son started crying. It was a hurt cry, not a terrible 2 cry. Both my husband and I went running to him. We asked what happened and my FIL wasn't sure. We picked him up and noticed that he had marks on his face. The dog bit him on the forehead! He was bruised and it broke the skin, although nothing serious.

I think we handled it quite well and didn't get overly-upset. It was just so sudden. There was no bark or growl, just a bite. We think my son might have put his face up to hers and the dog felt that it was an aggressive gesture.

We might have to keep the dog away from the kids now. My son will hopefully know better next time, but it will be hard once my daughter starts crawling (at 7 months), which could be any day now.

MIL

Mine is crazy. I know everyone has their stories, but seriously, I really think mine takes the cake. My MIL and hubby have a volatile relationship. His brother hasn't talked to their mom for over 10 years and she is now divorced from her husband. It sort of speaks volumes, right? She thinks it is always everyone else and doesn't see that she is the common denominator in the scenarios.

We haven't seen much of her this summer because she is very particular on when she wants to come over because she has a paranoia about being caught in traffic (even though she doesn't work, volunteer, or anything). So she generally only wants to come on Tuesday to Thursday between the hours of 10am-2pm. It makes it a little difficult to schedule sometimes because of other commitments and my hubby's shift work.

Back to the story...

My hubby talked to her last week and said we would get back to her with some dates. We decided afterwards that we would give her a call and go over there this week (she lives about 50 min away). We also thought we would bring dinner and cook for her since her knee has been hurting lately.

On Monday I just put the kids down for a nap when I heard the doorbell ring. I never answer the door unless I am expecting someone, so I ignored it. A few minutes later it rang again. I went to see who it was because I didn't want them to wake the kids up. I looked out the peephole and saw a bunch of stuff on the front step. It looked like toys. I opened the door and said "hello?" Then I saw my MIL carrying a box up to the front step. She said "hi" and proceeded back to her car. I was shocked. I said "hi, would you like to come in for a while?" She said "no, I wasn't invited." Then she got in her car and drove away!

I shut the door stunned. Finally, I regained composure and took the toys inside. They were from my hubby's aunt. My MIL called a few minutes later from her cell. I didn't answer. She basically just said that the toys were from the aunt and she dropped them off because her house cleaner was coming on Wednesday.

Seriously, she is the most passive aggressive person I have ever met! My husband would have stopped talking to her long ago if I didn't push for him to retain the relationship.

When I am done breastfeeding

I have given up milk products for the last 5 1/2 months due to my baby girl's intolerance to cow's milk protein. I try a little bit of milk every once in a while, but we find that it still affects her. I love breastfeeding and feel like it is important to do, so I don't mind giving up things for the benefit of my child/children...just like you do when you are pregnant. The last 3 years I have been either pregnant or breastfeeding and I dream of the days when I am done and can eat and drink whatever I like. For now I am just thinking about being able to drink milk again and eat cheese again!

1) grilled cheese sandwich
2) brie with a baguette

Menu Plan - week 3

Sunday
dinner at my mom's house

Monday
Chicken with Wild Mushroom and Balsamic Cream Sauce **new recipe I'm trying**
salad

Tuesday
Buttermilk pancakes
fruit
peameal bacon

Wednesday
Chicken stew
Cornmeal buttermilk biscuits

Thursday
Penne with artichoke pesto and grilled chicken **new recipe I am trying**


Friday
Turkey burgers (homemade)
salad
corn on the cob

Saturday
dinner with my brother-in-law and his family

Menu Plan - week 2

Since my last menu plan ended on Wednesday and it is now Saturday, here is a run-down of how we handled dinner:

Thursday - fresh gnocchi and meat sauce (bought from a place that makes yummy pasta)
Friday - lasagna and salad at my Mom's house


MENU PLAN:

Saturday
green salad with tomatoes, avocado, toasted almonds & white balsamic vinaigrette
marinated pork tenderloin on the BBQ
rice with carrots & celery
sesame asparagus with mushrooms

Sunday
Steak on the BBQ
baked potato with onions
corn-on-the-cob

Monday
chili
homemade cornmeal buttermilk biscuits
spinach salad

Tuesday
linguine with pesto and grilled chicken breast

Wednesday
Greek chicken
roasted potatoes
green beans

Thursday
Pecan crusted chicken
roasted sweet potato
asparagus or corn

Friday & Saturday
TBD